stupid spouse.
"But most of the time she spends around me belittling me, insulting me, and complaining about me. "
This is why I need to leave my marriage. I find myself behaving in this way to my husband and I do not like myself at all. Ya, I have been supporting him for almost 2 years, he doesn't bathe and smells awful and makes messes all over my home. I try so hard to be polite, Please would you be willing to take a shower, would you please wipe off the spilled food from the counter, etc, I just find that I am constantly saying those kinds of things, and I lose my patience. I even find myself walking into a particularly huge and nasty mess and screamingl, "OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and OH F--------!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" He doesn't understand why I am reacting this way. I then lose it and find myself belittling, being sarcastic, "Wow!! Good for you, You picked up your napkin from the floor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I try desparately to sound genuine, "Thank you soooo much for taking a bath", and I dispise myself when I hear my voice. I can't believe that he could be comfortable with this. He often complains, "Stop picking on me!!"
I just can't live with this. I can't live with myself behaving in this disrespectful way either. I am sorry but I think I may understand a bit. You do not deserve to be treated that way, no one does, and there may be a reason for it that you are not seeing.
Couples therapy can be a very good thing when you get a good therapist and both partners really want to use the therapy time well. Playing a blaming game and not getting down to the real issues will not help. I wish you the best.
Please take good care of yourself. You are in a situation that really is not pleasant.
This is why I need to leave my marriage. I find myself behaving in this way to my husband and I do not like myself at all. Ya, I have been supporting him for almost 2 years, he doesn't bathe and smells awful and makes messes all over my home. I try so hard to be polite, Please would you be willing to take a shower, would you please wipe off the spilled food from the counter, etc, I just find that I am constantly saying those kinds of things, and I lose my patience. I even find myself walking into a particularly huge and nasty mess and screamingl, "OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and OH F--------!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" He doesn't understand why I am reacting this way. I then lose it and find myself belittling, being sarcastic, "Wow!! Good for you, You picked up your napkin from the floor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I try desparately to sound genuine, "Thank you soooo much for taking a bath", and I dispise myself when I hear my voice. I can't believe that he could be comfortable with this. He often complains, "Stop picking on me!!"
I just can't live with this. I can't live with myself behaving in this disrespectful way either. I am sorry but I think I may understand a bit. You do not deserve to be treated that way, no one does, and there may be a reason for it that you are not seeing.
Couples therapy can be a very good thing when you get a good therapist and both partners really want to use the therapy time well. Playing a blaming game and not getting down to the real issues will not help. I wish you the best.
Please take good care of yourself. You are in a situation that really is not pleasant.
